Nurturing Indigos and HSPs—Environment


How can you nurture HSPs and Indigos? Being HSP-attentive is a start. For the empath, environment is everything. Highly Sensitive People (HSPs as coined by Elaine N. Aron. Ph.D. in her book The Highly Sensitive Person), experience everything from the inside out.

Aron’s book shows how empaths react to outside energy and influences. It’s a breath of fresh air for some who need validation and an empath guidebook! If you’re sensitive under grocery halogen lights (they may make you nauseous or anxious), if you get disoriented when you don’t eat, get pissy waiting in lines, and if going to the mall or hanging out in a crowd to one extreme energizes you or completely depletes you, there’s a strong possibility you’re dealing with empathic qualities. Guess what, so are your kids.

“If you want to feel pretty, surround yourself with pretty things.” There is truth to that old adage. When things you love, that comfort you, and people who encourage you surround you, it has mood altering effects, inducing happiness and inspiration. In turn, being surrounded by angry highly stressed people, watching violent or depressing movies, and listening to music that doesn’t produce creative messages, alters mood as well.

Just as “you are what you eat,” and “birds of a feather flock together,”—You are what and who you surround yourself with. Luckily, even for the HSP adult, these stimuli are usually a personal choice and even when they’re not, are somewhat controllable. Children, on the other hand, not only do not have the power to make those choices or control their surroundings, but often they do not know how to communicate their feelings.

That’s where we come in. Adults must be aware of unseen and many times unspoken phenomena that exist in the universe of a child. Adults must regulate these stimuli for them. It is our job to be aware and communicate in order to accommodate a healthier environment for our kids.

This post is the second in a series of 4.

Read the first: Creating the Enlightened Nest

Keep watching for:

Nurturing Indigos and HSPs—Encouragement
Nurturing Indigos and HSPs—Trust
Nurturing Indigos and HSPs—Unconditional Love

Creating the Enlightened Nest—Nurturing HSPs And Indigos

Non-negotiable Ingredients for the Peaceful HSP

Our paths are being lit by an amazing epiphany, often brought on by our children. More and more, people are coming to realize that the path to the calm inner soul starts with slowing down and remembering to breathe. The Indigo, Crystal, and Rainbow children phenomenon has opened a channel far greater than what we could have imagined.

Our children are telling us the times are changing with their deep insights and accelerated behaviors. We are a community of teachers and students. We find that sometimes the teachers are younger than the students. The “Do-it-because-I-said-so” approach to parenting is no longer an option. We must be more connected with our kids and go the distance to understand them. This is the transition of our evolution. We must be ready to adapt to change. So what does it take? —The right environment, encouragement, trust and unconditional, unwavering love.

This post is the first in a series of five. Be on the lookout for:

Nurturing Indigos and HSPs—Environment
Nurturing Indigos and HSPs—Encouragement
Nurturing Indigos and HSPs—Trust
Nurturing Indigos and HSPs—Unconditional Love

Indigo Survivor’s Take on Spiritual Parenting II

Indigo Characteristics

There was a long time in my life where I interpreted things differently than other people. I saw things on a more emotional and symbolic level. I thought it was normal, or didn’t know to think it wasn’t, but this made me very disconnected from my peers and my family. There was a huge communication disconnect that traveled with me through my life and my relationships. I had to learn a way of communicating that was somehow completely foreign and I had to teach myself because I was alone in this situation. No one seemed to understand and, in fact, they were scared to take on the challenge of me.

This was what led to my metaphysical journey. I realized that my life service was to support the spiritual community by communicating to survivors who feel the way I did growing up, or the loved ones who recognize they’ve got a live one and need some help. All that time, what I had needed was someone who believed in me.

Other Indigo Characteristics:

  • Indigos possess a warrior temperament, and stand up for what they believe in—often the “whistle-blower” in a group when something unethical is happening or something is going on that is against  collective conscious archetypal understanding.
  • Determined and focused on missions and goals.
  • Not only can Indigos detect dishonesty, it’s hard to build trust with them once you’ve broken it.
  • They have a strong sense of themselves and who they are.
  • They need creative freedom and room to evolve projects and ideas. If they don’t have that freedom, they tend to get frustrated easily.
  • Authority figures are seen as equals until their trust and respect is earned.
  • Indigos don’t feel pressured to conform to the group and have a strong sense of self-esteem.
  • They are direct with communicating their needs and let you know when their needs have not been met.
  • Antisocial behavior can be a label they receive when they’re not surrounded by children with the same needs and characteristics.
  • Indigo children are intuitive and sensitive (HSPs, Empaths).
  • They are natural communicators who use technology to get their points across as well as writing, music, and speech.
  • Intelligent and analytical, they often display amazing memory capabilities.
  • Sometimes they show low levels of patience. Indigos require needs to be met and situations to be fixed according to their immediate gratification. Otherwise, it seems like time-wasting.

Environmental Influences

Children are naturally empathic. As we grow older, many of us build walls and shells and filters to keep us from sensitivity. Most likely we’ve been taught that being sensitive is a curse rather than a trait that is much needed in our world. As such, a child with highly sensitive characteristics that naturally has self esteem can be deflated when that sensitivity is not supported.

Teaching children self-empowerment is so important. Bringing a sense of grounding and the understanding of belonging into their lives teaches that not only do we have a place in the Universe, but that we are connected to it. It is a part of us, and we are not separate. This is a mandatory principle in the foundation of a child’s healthy outlook on the world and the successes in an empathic and sensitive child’s evolution of life. The importance of understanding the scope of a child’s internalizing and out-of-body defense mechanisms can be life changing.

This was the second of a two-part series.
Read Part I: Indigo Survivors Take on Spiritual Parenting I.