The Evolved Indigo—Forgiveness

The Cage is an Illusion

One night I dreamed I was wearing a T-shirt that said “compassion” across the front. Slowly it all came together. When you acknowledge to yourself that you are no longer under law, “I am under grace, I don’t have to be the warrior anymore,” you can open yourself to compassion; for yourself and for others.

In the Bhagavad Gita, the sacred Hindu text, the god Krishna tells yogi Arjuna that it is a misjudgment to focus on the outcomes of our efforts rather than on the efforts themselves,

“The man who is devoted and not attached to the fruit of his actions obtains tranquility.”

This was difficult for me, but I had to face the shift in consciousness and accept myself for who I was, a complete universe in my own right. I had to remind myself that my ego was the only thing that made me feel fearful, alone, and not accepted. I had to forgive myself. Detaching emotionally, even a bit at a time, can create a monumental turning point in life, faith, and forgiveness.

Grace is honoring the divinity of a situation, person, place, thing or existence, while not dealing with it, blocking it or denying it, is excusing it. Through Grace we forgive.  All we have to focus on is Grace. When you change your present, you can change your future. Whenever I feel sidetracked I say this mantra to myself to help me stay focused, “All you need to do today is love being alive, even it it’s the hardest thing you’ve ever done.”  I remind myself to be grateful that I’ve chosen to come into a life, and now of all times, to be part of this brilliant madness that we call the Universe.

Fierce grace is not detachment. It’s the ultimate unity.

When you can move beyond your bubble of experience and see the connection through the Universe, the guilt and shame, the stuff of walls, releases because you sense its illusion. When you “wag more and bark less,” things seem to fall into place. Living your life in service brings about peace. Through grace we forgive. All we have to focus on is grace.

HSPs/Empaths, at the height of sensitivity, anxiety, or stress, can feel that the world is black and white, good and evil. How we teach them the ways of life, how to respect and forgive, is especially important. Raising our children in this supportive manner and teaching through experience encourages Indigos, Crystals, and Rainbows who are coming into their gifts. By acknowledging these personal self-realizations, we honor our children giving them what they need now. We honor ourselves by speaking our Warrior’s truths.

I have great respect for my Warrior. I am ready to forgive.

This post is the third in a three-part series.

Read the first: The Evolved Indigo—When the Warrior is Ready to Forgive
Read the second: The Evolved Indigo—The Warrior

The Evolved Indigo—When the Warrior is Ready to Forgive

When the Warrior is Ready to Forgive

Throughout my life, I managed to make it even though I often felt very isolated. In adulthood, and of course in hindsight, I see how my life could have played out differently had I been surrounded by those who believed in me and supported me. I am a strong believer in things happening for a reason.  The adults who surrounded me as a child did the best they could with what they knew how to do. Had they known better, they would have done better. And that’s why we’re here to teach each other now—because we can do better.  Teachers of self-empowerment could have made such a difference in my life as a warrior.

We must remember that Indigos share a purpose: to educate and transform.

This is done in two stages for the Indigo—the warrior stage and the stage of forgiveness. As I’ve mentioned in previous articles, I feel that one of my services to the spiritual community is expressing the importance of messages alerted to us not only by our personal guides and angels, but by our children. In order to do it better it is so important that we are aware.

This post is the first of a three part series. Be on the lookout for:

The Evolved Indigo—The Warrior
The Evolved Indigo—Forgiveness

Nurturing Indigos and HSPs—Unconditional Love

Unconditional Love

Trust nurtures unconditional love, a learning process with love as a guiding light.

We must remember that love means the opposite of fear! Isolation is scary. There is nothing kids need more from their parents and community than support, stability, and reassurance. No matter what is presented, the message that change is okay and life works itself out because there is balance, is important to the HSP child. Highly sensitive children need to know they’re okay. They need to know that they will always be loved, even if they’re angry, sad, tired or misunderstood. Creating a safe environment for these kids to thrive is the most important part of their self-empowerment.

Enlightenment in the home comes from uplifting and creative stimuli that surround us and our families, encouragement, trust and unconditional love. All of these powerful ingredients must be present to enable growth of a higher kind. My friend and spiritual counselor for many years, Rev. Anne Roberts, once told me,

“Love is all there is. We are either giving it or asking for it at any given time.”

I find this to be the key and truth in any difficult situation.

Calling upon the power of your own compassion and teaching this way of life by example is the greatest gift you can give to yourself and to others. How we support Indigos, Crystals and Rainbows coming into their gifts as highly sensitive kids is a perfect opportunity to generate awareness and unconditional Universal love.

This post is the fifth in a series of five.

Read the first: Creating the Enlightened Nest
Read the second: Nurturing Indigos and HSPs—Environment
Read the third: Nurturing Indigos and HSPs—Encouragement
Read the fourth: Nurturing Indigos and HSPs—Trust

Nurturing Indigos and HSPs—Trust


Encouragement and reassurance build the process of trust.

Parents who are “real” with their kids are parents who are honest. They are the parents who can be trusted. The only way children can learn and feel solid and enduring trust is from witnessing integrity in action. Being honest with yourself and your children by using the “Show-don’t-tell” approach will inevitably lead you to live in integrity.

People at their very basic mimic caretakers and those who raise them. It reminds me of a story about a black lab puppy I lived with years ago. I already had a beautiful Chocolate lab that was 4. I had taught her several tricks, one of which was the “wave-wave.” The new black lab puppy was only 16-weeks-old when he started doing the wave-wave by watching and mimicking my chocolate lab. He saw that she received treats for doing this and began copying her without anyone putting forth any effort to teach him.

On a larger scale and on a deeper level, notice the same natural pattern with relationship dynamics and the messages that are sent. For instance, as a child when I felt distraught about excessive external stimuli and my surroundings, my brother mimicked my mother by ignoring me. My aunt told my cousins “not to pay attention to me” because that is what my mother had shown her—and I imagine their parents ignored their needs to an extent as well. It is mimicked and followed until someone, (that someone was me after I was an adult), made it clear that it was no longer acceptable behavior. Parents hold such great responsibility through their silent messages and verbal cues.

Non-truths, evasion, aloofness, and double messages are all examples of communication when parents don’t know how to express their thoughts and feelings in a healthy way. Yet there are so many approaches that send positive messages. Simply acknowledging the need and desire to heal can open the channel between parent and child for greater contact and peaceful exchange.

Being pro-active about health and how we heal, grow and move on, for instance, sends the appropriate idea: “caring about my well-being, making sure I’m healthy, balanced and connected is important.” Receiving energy work, like Reiki, for parents with intentions to let go of non-supportive patterns is an example of teaching through action. The practice of being calm in adverse situations is how we can show our children about balance and spirituality. We must live it in order for it to be present and build trust.

This post is the fourth in a series of five.

Read the first: Creating the Enlightened Nest
Read the second: Nurturing Indigos and HSPs—Environment
Read the third: Nurturing Indigos and HSPs—Trust

Keep watching for:

Nurturing Indigos and HSPs—Unconditional Love

Nurturing Indigos and HSPs—Encouragement


Teaching children to ground, center and recognize their own energy is a way to build empowerment and self-esteem. First we must acknowledge where we get this sense of grounding. Knowing and having an understanding of belonging to family and a group of friends and knowing you are connected to the Universe as a divine being doesn’t come naturally when you are in self-protection mode and in a constant state of defense.

I often say, “I like nice people.” It’s not as simple as it sounds. Indigos, Crystals, and Rainbows are empaths/HSPs. How do you or your child feel when certain people approach? Self-conscious? Excited? Bummed out? Teaching your kids to center and ground is important so that they can recognize their own energy and decipher it from others’ energy.

Go easy on yourself, this is hard to do and takes practice when there’s a ton of energy coming at you! When you’re wide open, you’re going to be picking up any old energy that charges you! And especially if you don’t know that’s happening, it’s easy to think you’re all over the place, moody and insane. For a child to feel all of that and not have the communication skills yet to express those feelings or seek proper guidance, it can be infuriating, isolating and can create an array of behaviors, overwhelming anxiety and depression. Awareness on the parents’ part establishes a sense of encouragement for the child.

When there is encouragement, there is empowerment.
Lack of encouragement brings isolation, the worst avoidable phenomena that can lead an HSP astray and leave them yearning for peace half their life. Shutting down, experiencing shame, guilt, feeling discouraged and limited, and dealing with the stress of hurry and food allergies is a lonely way to live life—an utterly avoidable way to live life when the proper guidance is available. Many Indigos experience hardships with abuse and are disregarded in their communities as a result of their sensitive tendencies. An HSP or otherwise empathic child, who sees the world differently than most, needs encouragement in order to live an enriched and successful journey.

This post is the third in a series of five.

Read the first: Creating the Enlightened Nest
Read the second: Nurturing Indigos and HSPs—Environment

Keep watching for:

Nurturing Indigos and HSPs—Trust
Nurturing Indigos and HSPs—Unconditional Love