Nurturing Indigos and HSPs—Environment

Environment

How can you nurture HSPs and Indigos? Being HSP-attentive is a start. For the empath, environment is everything. Highly Sensitive People (HSPs as coined by Elaine N. Aron. Ph.D. in her book The Highly Sensitive Person), experience everything from the inside out.

Aron’s book shows how empaths react to outside energy and influences. It’s a breath of fresh air for some who need validation and an empath guidebook! If you’re sensitive under grocery halogen lights (they may make you nauseous or anxious), if you get disoriented when you don’t eat, get pissy waiting in lines, and if going to the mall or hanging out in a crowd to one extreme energizes you or completely depletes you, there’s a strong possibility you’re dealing with empathic qualities. Guess what, so are your kids.

“If you want to feel pretty, surround yourself with pretty things.” There is truth to that old adage. When things you love, that comfort you, and people who encourage you surround you, it has mood altering effects, inducing happiness and inspiration. In turn, being surrounded by angry highly stressed people, watching violent or depressing movies, and listening to music that doesn’t produce creative messages, alters mood as well.

Just as “you are what you eat,” and “birds of a feather flock together,”—You are what and who you surround yourself with. Luckily, even for the HSP adult, these stimuli are usually a personal choice and even when they’re not, are somewhat controllable. Children, on the other hand, not only do not have the power to make those choices or control their surroundings, but often they do not know how to communicate their feelings.

That’s where we come in. Adults must be aware of unseen and many times unspoken phenomena that exist in the universe of a child. Adults must regulate these stimuli for them. It is our job to be aware and communicate in order to accommodate a healthier environment for our kids.

This post is the second in a series of 4.

Read the first: Creating the Enlightened Nest

Keep watching for:

Nurturing Indigos and HSPs—Encouragement
Nurturing Indigos and HSPs—Trust
Nurturing Indigos and HSPs—Unconditional Love

8 of Cups

When I see this card I get the strong sense that a decision to leave a situation has been a long time coming. The seeker has tried to make it work. She’s tried to figure it out, usually working alone to make a relationship or partnership harmonious and productive, but something is just not letting the square peg fit in the circle. It’s sad, but it’s been such a long time coming, that the seeker is ready to move on. No regrets. The seeker knows this hasn’t been working and now wants to and does move on to something that better supports her.

Up:
This cards shows that the seeker is taking the emotion out of a situation and is able to see it for what it is. She can ask herself, “Is this for my greatest good?” “Is this situation supporting me?” and be objective in answering those questions. What makes this not an epiphany is that it’s been slowly losing passion for a while. There’s a feeling of loneliness here, but not the kind that is devastating. The kind that just takes over enough to be swayed by another person or project when they cross the path as a catalyst to let this situation go.

Reversed:
Pretty much, this cards means the exact opposite when reversed. Can be someone else in the seeker’s life, but usually the seeker—who is settling. She’s not super happy, but is going through the motions anyway. It’s about being phobic of real intimacy. The seeker is staying in a relationship or partnership that does not require intimacy, which ultimately does not render happiness, because they can’t move past their own feelings of worth.

Sometimes this person will go back on good decisions to leave (when the card was upright) because they can’t seem to move on. If this is paired with the Devil card, it can mean a hard time trying to kick an addictive relationship. Co-dependence: waiting for what the seeker wants the other party to do for them, but the other party just doesn’t play that way. It’s getting the idea that some day things will work out, but that day never comes. The seeker stays and waits anyway thinking there’s hope for the partner to follow through or change, but the partner does not (and possibly, due to dynamics, can’t).

The seeker doesn’t act on what he or she truly wants and may seem fickle. “I want it to be like this today, but not tomorrow.” Mood-based. And really moody! You never know if they’re going to have your back or not.

10 of Pentacles

This card reminds me of the family in Brothers and Sisters. Not all the drama, but how they’re a rather large family that doesn’t have money problems and they’re all close. They support each other. If one of the kids of the kids has a thing (school event, science fair, etc.), the whole family shows up with their significant others.

Same for that show Parenthood. It’s all dysfunctional, but not really because they all end up totally supporting one another. I love these types of shows for some reason. It makes me feel like there’s connection in life and family. Those stories have to come from somewhere!

The 10 of Pentacles is about loyalty, security, and support from those who are family (this really could mean real relatives or family of friends), that can go through generations. It represents a sense of being able to let your guard down because people and connections have your back. Gosh darn it, people like you.

It can even indicate that people like you so much, you’re about to receive an inheritance. It could be from investments, family, or the gods. High rolling business deals could be at work here as well as the buying of real estate, commercial or residential. It’s a good time to invest more.

With the 3 of Cups it could indicate a family reunion.


Reversed:

This card is a bummer when it’s reversed. It means there’s a possible/horrible financial loss. It can also have to do with family or close friends losing trust in the seeker. Hard-to-build-back kind of trust. It indicates that real estate may have to go up for sale in order to cover other financial losses. Seeking out a financial adviser and revamping budgets is definitely in order.

Creating the Enlightened Nest—Nurturing HSPs And Indigos

Non-negotiable Ingredients for the Peaceful HSP

Our paths are being lit by an amazing epiphany, often brought on by our children. More and more, people are coming to realize that the path to the calm inner soul starts with slowing down and remembering to breathe. The Indigo, Crystal, and Rainbow children phenomenon has opened a channel far greater than what we could have imagined.

Our children are telling us the times are changing with their deep insights and accelerated behaviors. We are a community of teachers and students. We find that sometimes the teachers are younger than the students. The “Do-it-because-I-said-so” approach to parenting is no longer an option. We must be more connected with our kids and go the distance to understand them. This is the transition of our evolution. We must be ready to adapt to change. So what does it take? —The right environment, encouragement, trust and unconditional, unwavering love.

This post is the first in a series of five. Be on the lookout for:

Nurturing Indigos and HSPs—Environment
Nurturing Indigos and HSPs—Encouragement
Nurturing Indigos and HSPs—Trust
Nurturing Indigos and HSPs—Unconditional Love

The Fool

Happy April Fool’s Day!

The Fool Card is always a breath of fresh air. It’s a new way at looking at a situation. It represents letting guards down and trusting. Sometimes naively trusting, but walking into a new world with a feeling of no regrets.

Reversed, this card can resemble a gypsy-type wanderer, as the Fool can be a student of life, not making deep roots or emotional connections. He can represent foolishness and not doing his research before jumping in head first. But right-side-up it always reminds me of Indiana Jones. The very first movie: Raiders of the Lost Ark, when Indiana has to take that step of faith out into what seemed like a step into a never-ending quarry. What he found was that he was safe and supported by a bridge that was almost impossible to see…

Deciphering surrounding cards indicates what the Fool is trying to communicate. The Fool can represent renewed faith in self, an endeavor, life, or utter naivete! It can represent someone who is not committed just yet to anything but themselves.

I was going on Fool card energy when I moved to Colorado from Arizona. I took a chance and risked everything, but trusted that I was moving on to the next phase of my life. It was a new beginning. The Fool card doesn’t promise perfection—it promises that the Universe is supporting you. It can enhance beginners luck, or produce great lessons for the seeker to call upon in their future. Lessons they will never forget. It teaches the seeker to trust themselves. It’s the beginning of their journey.

When this card lands in a spread, it can be the seeker, a person in the seeker’s life, or advice to look at a situation in a new way. It can show a situation that needs a smudging and new fresh energy ushered in. What once worked as energy for the seeker may no longer be what will propel her forward now. It’s time to take a look at what once served a purpose, but no longer has the same effect, and figure out what will work now. This can be an epiphany card that shows the seeker’s new awareness of old and new energy and stepping forward from the past.